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Liv McClelland – Fat Vs. BBW

Posted on Jun 22, 2008 in Features, Labels and Language | 2 comments

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<img src="http://thefatexperience .com/wp-content/themes/mimbo2.2/images/liv.jpg” alt=”” title=”Maven” width=”155″ height=”82″ align=”left” style=”margin: 10px;” /> Liv McClelland talks about the language she uses to describe her body.

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Interviewer: Do you describe yourself as fat, or what language do you use to describe yourself?

Liv: I think moreso now I say fat. Like, I put a personal ad on Craigslist.org and that’s how I described myself. I don’t say I’m a BBW. I really kind of choke on the BBW thing. I just – I don’t know what it is. It just sounds cheezy to me. It’s like I’m having to say (in a faux pompous voice) “Oh, I’m big, and I’m Beautiful and I’m a Woman!” To me, it just sounds so cheezy rather than just saying “I’m Fat. I’m 5’7”, I’m Fat, I have blond hair. You know, to me it just feels weird to say BBW. It just feels all sorts of cheezy to me.

Liv can be contacted here.

2 Comments

  1. For those who have fat-positive sexuality I think labels have always been a source of some puzzlement; I know they were for me for a long time. I didn’t know the term BBW until I discovered NAAFA in 1988. I had heard other euphemisms before, of course, but on the one hand, it seemed like a cowardly thing to use them, and useless too, as those girls and later women who heard them weren’t stupid. On the other hand, just to say this one little word seemed to be a conversation killer so much of the time.

    Even more of a quandary is what to call myself. I mean, there is homosexual and heterosexual and bisexual to describe gender alignment, but what term for somatic alignment? “Fat-admirer” has been a term which seems to endure only because there is no consensus on anything else, but it seems like a very bailing-wire-and-chewing gum kind of label. Sometimes I call myself “lipotropic”. There are always reactions to terms like this of “is it only the fat you see”, but could one then not ask of someone who calls her or himself gay or bi, is it only the gender you see? Of course not, these little shorthands refer to one note in a whole song each person plays, but you know, sometimes that one note represents something important to the entire song’s meaning.

    I like you am a purist. I really think that fat is a perfectly fun, bright perky little word which has been dragged through the mud for far too long, and I hope to be a part of bringing this word into a place of more understanding in the language.

  2. Liv,

    …lipotropic… that’s cute!

    I think it’s great that you’re cool with saying you’re fat. The best way to detoxify a word is to use it matter-of-factly to use it simply to describe what is.

    I’m a so-called fat-admirer because I am very attracted to fat women. It’s a misleading term- I don’t love all fat women— there are a number of aspects of a woman’s personality and background that that contribute to being compatible…. but for me…. if a skinny woman who seemed compatible in a number of ways would be more attractive to me if shge were fat.

    I have profiles on various fat dating sites- and I use “howidolovefat” for my handle. Some women have lambasted me for being so disrespectful as if all I care about is that a woman is fat and that I have no regard for otehr aspects of her character. Other women simply are so uncomfortable with any reference to them being fat- that to even refer tot that in my handle seems disrespectful to them.

    It seems so ironic- because for those who know me- profound respect and authentic inclusiveness for all persons is a fundamental value for me- I am taken aback to be thought of as being disrespectful.

    This puts me in a quandry: I want to promote fat acceptance as much as I can and I love detoxifying the word fat- but I don’t want to disrespect people- when I receive feedback that calling people fat is disrespectful- that they’d rather be called fluffy— fluffy?? (sounds like “feather brain!” – and some women prefer this)? I do tend to use thatt as an opportunity to relate some of my views with respect to fat acceptance and I encourage them to embrace being fat— I might pass along some good websites… liker this one.

    Death and dying is the other arena. I would rather say my sister died or my father died– because they did– rather than say they passed away… or they passed… they passed? what did they pass for Christ’s sake? Damn-it- they died!

    Long live fat women who embrace being fat without pussy-footing around!

    ~Eric

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